One day I was spending some time with my friend’s lovely dog, a gorgeous Cocker Spaniel with cute eyes. Every now and then he was giving me that happy canine look and I was so overwhelmed by it. I was wondering what was going on in his head? Is he looking at me because he wants to say something or he just does it out of love? Maybe he wants me to smile back at him. I had no idea, but I knew very well that he cared for me, not for my looks, but for the bond we had.
I spent rest of my day thinking why humans care too much about the physical attraction while it’s just something on the surface. After all, isn’t it true that we never get to pick our bodies but our inner beauty is the result of all the choices we made throughout our lives?
In my opinion, the definition of beauty is very distorted and belongs only to humans. If we have a look at nature, we see that there are many “beautiful” creatures, but without the presence of ugly creepy beings like worms and insects, the world will turn into a stinky mess.
So what we can learn is, it’s not about how you look.
It’s about who you are.
And what you do!
Calling a bug ugly won’t stop it from doing its job, but we have somehow paused our human responsibilities to “look good” and appeal to others.
Are we appealing to ourselves deep inside?
Modern mankind has set regional definitions of beauty which means, where and when you’re born defines your standards of beauty. In my opinion, there is no point in following a very volatile idea when you can just be you, the pretty you, the ugly you, or the normal you.
You shouldn’t let any of those titles define you!
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Being ugly is outdated for many reasons. First of all, we have less and less “natural beauty” every year. The cosmetic industries have destroyed our women’s and men’s self-esteem. Many people think they’re born ugly and plastic surgery + layers of makeup can solve it. They never understand they can’t change what’s in their genes until they have a totally different-looking baby in their arms.
Being ugly is just a term, a very toxic term. But it’s also meaningless. Using this word is denying all the perfection of our creation and focusing on the external appearance.
The term ugly has also damaged beautiful people (I’d like to refer to them as privileged people). They are recognized for their beauty and they have to maintain their identity. This is why women like Madonna don’t want to embrace their age. People with her mindset are likely afraid of being called ugly.
Unfortunately, beauty stops many people from working on their inner well-being. Beautiful people think they have contributed enough to the world already. It doesn’t surprise me at all when they do the worst things with no shame.
They have demanded only appearance, and this is why we should not follow them.
Tn my eyes, there is no ugly being in the world. even on the physical or facial level, there is at least one thing that makes us unique, and that is nature’s signature of beauty. You never see two butterflies with the same pattern on their wings. You never find two people with the same fingerprints. That’s what makes it beautiful.
There is a lot of genetic evolution behind each of our differences. There is a rich history behind each race and its visual features. Even our scars and “defects” have their own story to tell. They shape us into who we are.
It’s been thousands of years since Cleopatra introduced the prestige of beauty, but the real charm lies within our hearts. It is a kind heart and a wise mind that can challenge us for real beauty entitlements.
How our eyes see things shouldn’t judge their quality.
Let the heart do the job!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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